Saturday, November 8, 2008

Ripping, Tearing and Leaving

I was thinking about what losing an 18 year old son as my Brother in Law and his Wife did a week ago today really is like.

There is no easy way to say goodbye. It's always hard to lose someone you love. But, sometimes it's not just leaving as it would be with a person who is ill or elderly and infirmed. It's a loss, but there is preparation.

For example: If you have a diseased arm the Doctor can anesthetize you, carefully remove it, this on the heels of careful analysis and preparation for the operation. Knowing what to expect. Knowing that it will be a loss. Knowing it still hurts, but it does in fact does heal. Kind of like the expected passing of someone without it being a surprise.

Opposed to that would be if some evil person just walks up and brutally RIPS your arm off. Blood everywhere. Pain. Hurt. Trauma. Terrible loss. No preparation. No anesthesia . Raw pain.

That's more what this loss was. And it will heal like that. I have learned from this and other situations not to expect quick healing.

OH, over time it will heal, but it will always be sore, raw and ugly.

I now understand that much better than I did.

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